The title of my blog...
is "Alot to Learn", which is what I have done while I have been here.
I wanna take the time to reflect on the things that I have learned so far and add to this post as I go...
Personally:
Other lessons coming soon....
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OH...and last night I went to REALLY intriguing event on Zimbabwe's independence. Hopefully I will take some time to speak on this.
I wanna take the time to reflect on the things that I have learned so far and add to this post as I go...
Personally:
- I don't make friends easily....intentionally. I would rather observe people's actions and see the positive and negative qualities of a person before I try to call them a "friend" or think of them as "ride or die". This process takes different amounts of time in various contexts. For example, at WU it took some years....in SA, I'll just say I know my place.
- It is always good to find atleast one good quality about a person that you really like. I realize that I tend to do that for about everyone that I get to know, although I usually do not tell them. Even if we are not the best of friends, I notice the little things and can appreciate you for them even if my attitude towards you isn't the friendliest all the time. You should ask me one day.
- In conjuction with the point above and a conversation that I had with Audrey last year....I have high expectations for almost everyone I meet. In the past, this has been detrimental to potential/current relationships because I don't always have high patience and people feel that I am judging them. But I am working on that...especially my initial reactions to pple that I feel haven't lived up the my expectations for them (which is another issue Audrey is schooling me on, lol). I am constantly working on this quote - "You can't have high expectations, and low patience."
- When I first meet you...I will always be quiet and a 'loner' willing to do my own thing and not reveal alot about myself. If others don't want to go on my 'adventures' I usually don't mind doing it on my own...my philosophy is that my fun/experience is not dependent on you.
- Taking after my father, I'm not a big pple person unless I tell myself that I'm going to be that day. Seriously, I'd rather dip out the back of a crowded space. I don't like alot of people touching me close spaces...but if you see me at WILD I'll be the one protecting my friends from the 6ft drunk pple that are hammering over them or the one squeezing through the crowd to get in a jammie (shuttle).
- After a while, I get complacent with who I am friends with. I think I have done this some in STL...and especially in Dallas. But this quality has come out here in SA where I have noticed it more...I have taken less efforts to get to know more people and have retreated to myself for the past few weeks. I'm not sure if this is because of some issues I had with pple I met here, because I'm leaving in a few weeks, or just because I'm too comfortable....regardless my overall actions of shown apathy and complacency. BUT I am making an effort to change this as I type this.
- My actions in a group of people really depends on the dynamic of the group. At home (Dallas), I am the quiet respectful person because my friends are OUTRAGEOUS and I love it!! At WU....my friends are less 'out there' so I take a more 'crazy' personality than I would at home, yet I am still myself, respectful and consciouse of my situation.
- I realize here that I need to question/challenge Christianity more than I do right now.
Other lessons coming soon....
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OH...and last night I went to REALLY intriguing event on Zimbabwe's independence. Hopefully I will take some time to speak on this.